Begin again

So it has been a few months since my last blog. I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl Alyssa, on March 15. Improvement on myself has fallen to the way side as all my focus has been on her and Wilamina. Even though focusing on the girls feels like the natural thing to do, I don't feel happy or content. I feel restless, anxious.  I don't feel like myself. I am thinking, who am I now? I was the hard, dependable worker, always showing up to work on time and ready to go. I was Mina's momma. I loved having my nails done and my legs always shaved. Now I can barley get through washing my hair before Alyssa is crying or Mina needs help finding something that just can't wait!  So with all that, I am back to square one.  Beginning again,  on my quest to be the best. Beginning again with improving myself first! Starting tomorrow, I WILL shave my legs. ☆

Day #1: Take care of yourself

Today was the first day of the first step in becoming a better wife, "Taking care of yourself". By this I mean keeping up my looks and hygiene. Just because I am a mother, 38 weeks pregnant and am attempting to work up until delivery does not give the excuse to let myself go. I want to keep myself attractive for my husband.  This has proven to be more difficult then I had planned.  It could be that because I am 2 weeks away from giving birth to our 2nd daughter or that our 6 year old was up at 7:00 a.m. (for me, that is too early. I love my sleep).  Either way the day begins, making breakfast, cleaning up after breakfast, working on a school project, laundry...one thing leads to another and before I realize it, it is noon.  I still haven't showered or even brushed my hair! 
Noon means lunch.  We were all starving and beginning to go a little crazy from being in the house all week/weekend due to the weather.  We decided to go out to lunch and to the park.  Although we had great family time and enjoyed the beautiful day, I still have not done anything to improve myself.  Now back home and the 6 year old is in the bath as I should be and will be.  I suppose "Better late then never" and "Never give up" will be my motto's for today. 
Tomorrow is an another opportunity. 

It all starts at home

So, In the last day or so I have had time to think about where to be begin.  It is hard not to feel guilty for choosing family over friends or vice versa. Hopefully in the end everyone in my life will feel equally important in their own ways.  So even though I was a daughter and sister first, I have decided to focus on my home,  On being the best mother and wife, correction,  wife and mother that I can be.  As a mother I feel like we instinctively feel that our children are our priority.  It is hard not to cater to them first and let our husbands fend for themselves.  I corrected the order because in my research, whether right or wrong, it seems right to me that I should make my husband top priority.  By making my husband's happiness priority this in turn will make a happy marriage, will set the tone for our household and trickle down to our children.  I have selected 10 steps out of the many that I came across, as the ones I feel are most important for me to work on.

10 Steps for becoming a better wife

1. Take care of yourself
2. Show appreciation
3. Take charge of the romance
4. Accept your husband for the way he is (even if little things drive you crazy)
5. Be straight forward, Say what you mean.
6. Take in interest in what is important to him
7. Make him laugh or at least try :-/
8. Stay positive, no matter what (be his cheerleader
9. Honor his requests, no questions asked
10. Keep the house (and car) clean

For the next 30 days my posts will be about the efforts I have made to be a better wife.
Check back each day for an update as to how well this is working for me!  and wish me luck  ;)

Quest to be Best: It is only the beginning

So, this is my first attempt at blogging.  I am a daughter, sister, mother, wife and friend.  I have decided at the age of 35 to begin a quest to be best.  I want to be the best at each of the roles I have been given in life. I don't know how long it will take me but I refuse to give up.  In my opinion,  I have been through a lot in my adult life and many times wondered if I was making the right decisions.  I want all aspects of my life to be as perfect as they can be, not just for myself but for the benefit of my family and friends.  I am breaking everything down and having been inspired by Benjamin Franklin's Thirteen Virtues, I will attempt to work on one area each week and post about my progress. 
I hope to inspire and help other women become the best that they can be as well. Now the first issue is where to begin now that I have begun...