Quest to be Best
Wednesday, August 1, 2018
1978-2004
Before I go any further, this blog is also to help anyone that comes across it, It may have errors and not be as fancy as others but it goes along with what I am aspiring for in my life now which is SIMPLICITY.
Just a little back story to get you up to speed. I was born and raised in Boone, N.C. I will be 40 this year in November! WHAT?! I was saved at Hickory Grove Baptist Church in Charlotte when I was 14 yrs old while visiting my older sister during the summer. Looking back over the last 20 years so much has happened and so many choices have been made that didn't always feel like choices. By that I mean I dealt with anxiety and depression and was living life very spontaneously. It was easier to go with the flow and take the easy way than to set goals and hold my self accountable for anything. I was a good child, student and even in high school I didn't party, smoke or drink. On my 18th birthday I met a boy who became my husband and I was married at 19. We didn't marry because of any other reason than we were in love, although everyone thought "she must be pregnant". But even marrying because we were in love we had so much to learn and things we didn't know. We eventually grew up a little more and although we still cared for and loved each other, we decided to separate at 24 years old. This is where I believe it all started...or ended depending on how you look at things.
After separating I did have regrets and tried to reconcile but he was set on going our own ways. I didn't notice at the time but this I believe is where my depression began. I was a customer service manager at the local grocery store and worked 40 or more hours a week and every second that I wasn't working I was out with my friends drinking with daily stops at the gym to work out. This was my life for approx 4 months. I was getting more and more away from God and more into the world, not making good choices and just living life how ever I wanted. Feeling like I needed to escape and start something new, I moved to Charlotte, N.C. just before my 25th birthday in November 2004.
More to come...
Thursday, October 23, 2014
A healthy obsession
I am not talking about being obsessed with my outward appearance or reputation. Being obsessed with myself or being healthy is a good thing. It causes me to eat healthy and exercise everyday. On the days that I take care of me, I stand up straighter, I smile, I am more productive, more organized, it spills over to others around me and I like that. How is that a bad thing? The word obsessed, as defined by Google is to "preoccupy or fill the mind of (someone) continually, intrusively, and to a troubling extent." It doesn't have to be a bad thing, that is why I call it my healthy obsession. According to the Urban dictionary and the definition I prefer for obsessed " Is just a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated." In my opinion, we need to be obsessed, dedicated to ourselves. We need to be the best we can be.
Sunday, October 5, 2014
The missing peace
After Alyssa's birth I noticed almost immediately that I was struggling the postpartum depression. I had it after Wilamina but was able to cope with the help of medication. This time around due to changes beyond my control with insurance, medication is not an option. I am having to take matters into my own hands. At first I was mad about it, thinking how am I going to do this without taking my medicine? Just the anxiety of not being able to get it was making me more depressed. Then, after being angry, I accepted it, and started looking into more natural ways of coping.
I joined a support group for depression and anxiety but they weren't much fun. Ha! My doctor has told me from the beginning that I need to exercise. When I came home from the hospital after delivering Alyssa I was 170lbs. I dropped another 10-12lbs possibly from breast feeding but I stopped breast feeding after 6weeks and my weight has held steady at 158 lbs. I am 5'4". I was already taking a mutli-vitamin but decided to add a supplement of vitamin B. It's hard to exercise when you don't even feel like getting out of bed. My only motivation for getting out of bed, apart from the girls was needing to use the bathroom and food, ...and the fact that husband would be upset if he came home everyday and the house was a wreck. So knowing that I had no other choice I began to workout. I feel like this is my missing "peace". The piece I need for the puzzle of putting myself together and the peace that I need to be ok with myself, forgive myself and be patient with myself. I finally feel like things are starting to fall into place.
Monday, August 11, 2014
Begin again
So it has been a few months since my last blog. I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl Alyssa, on March 15. Improvement on myself has fallen to the way side as all my focus has been on her and Wilamina. Even though focusing on the girls feels like the natural thing to do, I don't feel happy or content. I feel restless, anxious. I don't feel like myself. I am thinking, who am I now? I was the hard, dependable worker, always showing up to work on time and ready to go. I was Mina's momma. I loved having my nails done and my legs always shaved. Now I can barley get through washing my hair before Alyssa is crying or Mina needs help finding something that just can't wait! So with all that, I am back to square one. Beginning again, on my quest to be the best. Beginning again with improving myself first! Starting tomorrow, I WILL shave my legs. ☆
Sunday, February 16, 2014
Day #1: Take care of yourself
Noon means lunch. We were all starving and beginning to go a little crazy from being in the house all week/weekend due to the weather. We decided to go out to lunch and to the park. Although we had great family time and enjoyed the beautiful day, I still have not done anything to improve myself. Now back home and the 6 year old is in the bath as I should be and will be. I suppose "Better late then never" and "Never give up" will be my motto's for today.
Tomorrow is an another opportunity.
Saturday, February 15, 2014
It all starts at home
10 Steps for becoming a better wife
- Take care of yourself
- Show appreciation
- Take charge of the romance
- Accept your husband for the way he is (even if little things drive you crazy)
- Be straight forward, Say what you mean.
- Take in interest in what is important to him
- Make him laugh or at least try :-/
- Stay positive, no matter what (be his cheerleader
- Honor his requests, no questions asked
- Keep the house (and car) clean
Check back each day for an update as to how well this is working for me! and wish me luck ;)
Thursday, February 13, 2014
Quest to be Best: It is only the beginning
I hope to inspire and help other women become the best that they can be as well. Now the first issue is where to begin now that I have begun...